Are you seeking greater joy?
Tap into the little known secret about the Duality of Presence!
In our daily life , we are often so wrapped up in being busy and getting distracted. We miss what is going on around us and the opportunity of being present with our life . We ask ourselves “Am I doing everything that I can.”, but yet there is still no sense of fulfillment.
The big question that I like to ask is if this is the last day of your life, how would relate to yourself on that day? What would you do?
For me this simple question brought up something incredible that I wasn’t aware of. I thought about it and I said “ I will enjoy every moment of my life and I will be present with every second to celebrate being alive.” But how can I really enjoy my life? In order to do that I need to be 100% present with what I have and what I don’t have. Sadness, anger and fear and all of my emotions become part of me because this is part of my experience on this planet . Human beings have a tendency to be present with the feelings they consider good feelings like pleasure, happiness, joy and excitement but with out sadness, anger and fear how can we really experience joy, love and excitement.
If you think about it we are missing half of our life because we are not comfortable with our feelings. This is what studies “(quote)”show us about how many emotions we experience during a day. By looking at the chart shortly you will find out how much you may not be present with your life because these feelings are not comfortable to confront. There are numerous theories and classifications of emotions from many different researchers. One of the best known is Parrott in the research of emotions.
Parrott’s 2001 theory of Emotions
- Gerrod Parrott devised a 2001 theory consisting of a tree type structured list leading to the classification of deeper emotions. This categorisation list includes over 100 emotions – classified as shown in the chart below:
One famous quote that brings this all together is “This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. (Rumi)
How would life be if you have a chance to be present with all of your emotions? Lets contemplate that oportunity, lets enjoy every moment of our time even the times that we don’t like. Lets claim the 50% of our life missing, by being present in the areas or moments that contrast where we aspire to be. Lets be grateful for the moments we feel lonely, sad, frustrated or disappointed because those moments are valuable experiences in your life. If you can be present with them without judgement or comparison to what you had before you can then notice they are just beautiful moments to remind you that you are alive.